Abantu Bapfa Iki ?

In the my first book "Why don't people get along?" I addressed the question Why people fight and what's wrong with them. In this second volume, I focus on how we can forgive people who hurt us so bad. We live in a world full of pain but we can forgive because we have hope. Our hope lies in the fact that Jesus has overcome the world! We are not doomed to fail. We are on the winning team because we are seated with Jesus in heavenly places (Ephesians 2:6). It is easy to lose heart and give up in this crumbling and fallen world. It is one thing to sing hope, quote the scriptures about hope but it is a whole another thing to go through deep pain and still trust that God is truly with you. It becomes even harder to forgive the person who hurt you, especially when he/she did it knowingly and willingly. Forgiveness is primarily an issue of trust. When our hope is truly grounded in God and not in the world, we have a solid foundation to forgive. We forgive people because we are fully convinced that we are loved by God. We forgive because we know that God is for us, and if God is for us, who can be against us? (Romans 8: 31). Our offender can't separate us from God's love. God knows our pain and can give us strength to endure it. His love does not guarantee that we will never go through pain but it guarantees that He will be with us when we pass through the fire or deep waters (Isaiah 43: 2). There are several other reasons why we should forgive: First, we forgive because we are unceasingly being forgiven by a loving Father. Second, we forgive to free our offender but more importantly to free ourselves. Third, we forgive others to build a bridge that we will need to pass by onetime, when we need that forgiveness ourselves. Last but not least, we forgive because we are deeply rooted in God's marvelous love, and nothing can uproot us from His grip. "When besieged, I am calm as a baby. When all hell breaks loose, I am collected and cool" (Psalm 27:3, The Message). In this book, I suggest forgiveness as a possible way to manage pain and get along with the person who hurt you. I start the chapter on forgiveness by defining what forgiveness is not vs. what forgiveness is. Then I extensively discuss three main steps of forgiveness: Knowing yourself, Knowing God's forgiving heart, and knowing your enemy. I argue that the three steps appear to be indispensable in achieving the forgiveness process. It is my hope that this book will help the reader to discover what I call the pearls of forgiveness and help past enemies get along. Birds are not fighting. Why should we fight ? God bless you as you order and read this book Rev. Faustin Uzabakiliho, Ph. D. Exodus Vision, President and Founder